There Is Something Better Than Love: Complicity

We all want to find someone whose demons understand our own. A omeone who has the key to our locks, with whom we feel so confident that let them open them without fear of collusion experienced. Someone with whom our true selves resurface and we can be ourselves.

It is something better than a love because each one discovers a part of the other without the need for words and with the need for a life full of permanence. A complicity is achieved with those people you hold on to so as not to let the present slip away while you think about everything that awaits you.

There are those who call them home people, because they give you the warmth of a comforting hug and the pleasure of collecting the motives and strength necessary to face day-to-day life and flow with life.

They make you breathe love and smile foolishly when you remember that the coincidence that you are where you are you are in the same coordinates through the looks.

The body language of complicity

There are looks that say it all and a whole that is filled with looks. What we call complicity is a special union that transcends love, that is flooded with it and that is understood. Because loving is not just loving, it is above all understanding.

“I still think that our best dialogue has been that of the looks. Words, consciously or unconsciously, often lie, but the eyes are never untrue.

If I have ever tried to lie to someone with my eyes, my eyelids fall, spontaneously lower their protective curtain, and there they remain until I and my eyes recover the obligation of the truth.

With words everything is more complex, but even so, if the words try to deceive, the eyes tend to deny the mouth ”.

-Mario Benedetti-

For complicity, there are no secrets in looks, gestures or hugs. They are those people who know that even if we tell them that everything is fine, they know that it is not. In fact, they probably don’t even need to look at us or hear us speak. They are not fortune-tellers, but they understand us beyond mirages and appearances.

The air you breathe is enough to know that the connection is pure fantasy, which goes beyond a sincere smile or a wise look. An atmosphere is created between two accomplices that becomes a kind of emotional prophecy that links feelings and hearts.

A home where souls fly

“People believe that a soulmate is the person you are a perfect fit with, which is what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, it is the person who brings out everything you have repressed, who makes you look inward so that you can change your life.

A true soulmate is, surely, the most important person you will meet in your life, because it knocks down all the walls and wakes you up with a slam of the door ”.

-Eat, Pray, Love (Elizabeth Gilbert) –

A soulmate is that person who makes you laugh and smile without saying anything at all. He is a person who is there, who does not abandon you, who is proud of what you achieve and who you are while at the same time having no shame in telling you what he thinks or in calling your attention if you make a mistake.

This is not to say that there will be no misunderstandings or arguments, but even an accomplice fight can bring down our retaining walls. This only happens when that person is someone who questions you and who is not in your life silently, someone who marks a before for which there is no after and who floods every moment of tenderness.

Complicity allows us to accept without demands or hyperapies, without the need to change our essence or to satisfy childish or extreme needs. Then vibrations are built that complement each other perfectly, in the same way that a shared secret winks at the unconditionality of the soul.

Add instead of subtract

As His Holiness the Dalai Lama postulates, “if you don’t add, at least don’t subtract. And it is that complicity is about adding. If being with someone means subtracting, then you better think twice. Complicity allows you to be you and get the best out of yourself. If someone tries to clip your wings, assume there is no complicity.

A clear example of complicity, although in another aspect, we have it in John Lennon and Paul McCartney. Separately they are great musicians, but together they formed one of the best groups in the history of modern music. The same happens with relationships in which there is complicity. Together they highlight the qualities of the other, enhance them, make them grow and elevate them to levels never imagined.