How Does Eye Contact Work?

There is a Spanish saying that ensures that “the look is the mirror of the soul.” And it is that with eye contact we can teach others how we feel, both physically and emotionally. What’s more, through our gaze we can also create a closer bond with the person with whom we are talking, making them feel more comfortable, or on the other hand, that they feel threatened.

Ultimately, our eyes are a part of non-verbal communication , which is also done with the smile or hands or shoulders. After knowing this. Would you like to know how eye contact works in people’s relationships? Well, read on below, we will explain some interesting questions.

“Words are full of falsehood or art; the look is the language of the heart ”.

-William Shakespeare-

Eye contact: depends on the situation

The look works differently depending on the situation in which the person is. For example, this is usually more intense and long in a conversation between just two people. On the contrary, in a group the members who exchange glances usually do not do so for more than 3 or 5 seconds.

Likewise, within a conversation, you can count how long you are looking at a person and when you are not. This is usually 30% eye contact, and 60% not doing it while listening. If you look less than that, it can indicate that you are not interested in the conversation, but if you do it too much it is that obviously you are very interested in that one! And you know what that means right? The answer is explained in the next point.

Lovers keep a longer look

It’s hard to tell if a person hates or loves you when they make really long eye contact with you. Like everything in this life depends on the situation and the relationship of the people.

However, it is clear that those in love who are spending a romantic evening tend to dedicate more intense and much longer looks. In fact, it is proven that those people who like you tend to look you in the eyes more  than those who are not really interested in you.

“The gaze is possibly the most amazing human courtship technique: the language of the eyes.”

-Helen Fisher-

Intense stares can be annoying depending on which culture

Eye contact does not work and denotes the same in all corners of the world. For example, the Japanese interpret that not looking into the eyes is a sign of respect for others. However, for most Westerners, failure to do so can mean distrust or contempt.

But not only do we see eye contact as something normal, but also, in many Arab countries they tend to make much more intense looks at each other.

Liars make more eye contact

It has always been believed that when someone lies they usually avoid eye contact. Nothing could be further from the truth. And is that  every time a liar lies, he fixes a lot on the other’s face. The reason? Check if you really believe him or not. On the other hand, the liar knows that in this way he also gains confidence and credibility.

So you have to pay close attention to how people act, because eye contact can be a way in which the other person is attentive to know if they are manipulating us better or worse. In the same way, someone who does not make eye contact does not imply that they are not sincere, it may be that they are shy or insecure.

As you have seen, through our eyes we can show the whole world what we feel at all times. And you? Don’t you usually look others in the eye ? Well, from here we recommend that you practice it since surely those around you will “see” you in a better way.

“The eyes are the point where soul and body mix.”

-Christian Friedrich Hebbel-

Duchenne’s smile

What will the smile have to do with the look? If we want to know if someone is smiling at us sincerely, in the look we will find the key. When we smile we tend to stretch the corner of our lips to the sides and show our teeth. The muscles involved in the smile of the mouth are the zygomaticus major and minor. However, and here is the key, when the smile is authentic, the orbicularis muscles also contract, that is, we tend to wrinkle the outside of the eyes.

Guillaume Duchenne  dedicated himself in the 19th century to electrically stimulating the facial muscles of a large number of people. And he concluded that the purely genuine smile was the one involving the zygomatic muscles and the mouth and orbicularis. Duchenne stated that the contraction of the orbicular muscles only occurred spontaneously, so a forced smile could not involve these muscles. So, if we want to know if someone is sincere when they laugh with us, we only have to observe their gaze.